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Frequently Asked Questions About Marriage
1. What do I need to do to get married in the church?
In order to be married in the Catholic Church one must be free (not already married or in a vowed religious life) of sufficient age, one of the parties must be Catholic, and intend to enter a marriage for life, to be open to children and to be faithful.
2. What do you do for marriage preparation at St. Vincent de Paul?
There are several steps to marriage preparation. Those who are engaged have already begun the process through courtship and the promise to marry each other. The Catholic Church believes that matrimony is one of the seven sacraments instituted by Christ Jesus. In order to help you continue this preparation St. Vincent’s requires an eight to twelve month time of discernment to aid you in assessing your readiness, strengths and weaknesses and personal faith. It is imperative that you contact Deacon Charles, 817-478-8206 ext 207, as soon as you have decided to marry. Requests for dates and times are handled on a first come first served basis, and will not be booked until preparation has begun.
3. May I be married at St. Vincent de Paul even if I am not a registered member?
Yes, you can celebrate your wedding here as long as you are free to marry. (If there is a prior marriage to either a Catholic or non-Catholic, it must be addressed first).
4. May I receive marriage preparation at St. Vincent de Paul even though I plan to marry in my hometown?
Yes, if you live within our parish boundaries or are registered in our parish.
5. If my spouse is not Catholic, may we get married in a Catholic Church?
If one of the parties is not Catholic you may celebrate your marriage at St. Vincent’s. The same conditions apply as in number 1. In addition, the Catholic must promise to remain a practicing Catholic and promise to all in her or his power to baptize and raise all of the children in the Catholic faith.
6. If my spouse is of another faith, and he/she wishes to marry in that church, will the Catholic Church recognize my marriage?
You may marry in another sacred place but permission must be obtained from the Bishop’s office. The deacon will help you with this.
7. Is there a fee for marriage?
As with everything else, there are costs associated with keeping our parish church operational and properly maintained. Fees help to defray the expenses of hosting your wedding.
8. May I have a priest or deacon from another parish celebrate the wedding?
Yes, you may. The deacon or priest must receive delegation from the pastor or parochial vicar of St. Vincent’s.
Marriage Preparation Information
The Primary Marriage Preparation must be experienced by both parties, preferably together. It is required that the entire Primary Marriage Preparation be completed three months prior to the wedding. Documentation has to be sent through the Catholic Center 30 days prior to marriage. Refusal to actively participate in the Primary Marriage Preparation warrants a re-evaluation of the couple’s readiness for the Sacrament of Marriage at this time.
Fully Engaged is a marriage preparation program that includes the conventional areas most engaged couples should address, such as communication, finances, personality differences, and conflict resolution.
The following policy statements are drawn from the Marriage Guidelines for the Dioceses of Texas, published by the Texas Catholic Conference and the Sacramental Guidelines: Diocese of Ft. Worth.
Engaged Couples are requited to do the following programs in this section as part of their primary marriage preparation:
SPONSOR COUPLE PROGRAM
This involves the engaged couple meeting 3–4 times with a Sponsor Couple. The results of the Fully Engaged instrument will be shared with you during the course of the Sponsor Couple meetings.
The Fort Worth Diocese has now chosen to list Pre-Cana dates and registration information on their website. Options for the Pre-Cana course are available on the diocesan web site at www.fwdioc.org. Under the Family tab click on Marriage and Family Life. On the left side of the page click on Getting Married and then Pre-Cana. This tab includes a description of the Pre-Cana course, current dates, times, and locations. Please be aware that there is a fee for the Pre-Cana course. That information is also on the web site. Under the Pre-Cana tab there is an opportunity to register on-line as well as contact information if you have any further questions.
NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING
Natural Family Planning course (NFP). NFP provides you with the ability to make responsible decisions regarding your potential parenthood. Engaged couples are given information by certified instructors experienced in the use of NFP methods. These classes provide the couple with the information and specific guidelines to interpret the symptoms they observe. Confidential attention is given to each couple. Please consult the brochure in your packet for more information and contact the parish NFP couple for classes. Each couple will be required to attend the one of the three methods of NFP. Contact the diocese for more information.
Allows engaged couples to witness married life in the real world. Each engaged couple is assigned a sponsor couple to go over the results of their Fully Engaged which they take at their first initial meeting. They will also mentor the couples in areas that might need more attention. Couples meet in the sponsor couple’s home about 3-4 times. Each sponsor couple will be trained by our sponsor couples coordinators.
We like to provide wedding coordinators here at St. Vincent’s for the many weddings that take place here. As a wedding coordinator, your job would be to attend the wedding rehearsal (about one hour) and be present on the actual wedding day (about three hours). Your presence is especially important to the bride, groom, and their families and keeps the day flowing and relaxed.
Inquires about any of the above may be made to the Director of Music and Liturgy,